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Writing isn’t just a hobby for me – it’s a passion. Since I was a child, writing has been a way of learning, understanding, sharing, reflecting, inspiring, and motivating myself and others. I’m honored to share them with you and welcome your comments or suggestions. We’re all growing together!
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on life
Writing isn’t just a hobby for me – it’s a passion. Since I was a child, writing has been a way of learning, understanding, sharing, reflecting, inspiring, and motivating myself and others. I’m honored to share them with you and welcome your comments or suggestions. We’re all growing together!
articles on life
Writing isn’t just a hobby for me – it’s a passion. Since I was a child, writing has been a way of learning, understanding, sharing, reflecting, inspiring, and motivating myself and others. I’m honored to share them with you and welcome your comments or suggestions. We’re all growing together!
Chelsey’s articles
Discover transformational articles on healing from narcissistic abuse, interpersonal trauma, toxic relationships, gaslighting, thriving as an introvert/empath, self-worth, intuition, anxiety, relationships, self-trust, boundaries, and more!
Healthy Communication Does Not Work With Toxic People
You need two types of communication strategies: One for healthy people. And one for toxic people. Healthy communication not only doesn’t work with toxic people… it makes things worse. Here’s why…
Don’t Ignore These Red Flags When Dating
Dating should be a time of reflection & of getting to know one another – It’s a time to WATCH for red flags – not ignore them. And yet sometimes we’re so focused on this person being THE person… We’re willing to overlook, downplay, or flat out dismiss our gut feelings.
How Narcissists Normalize their Toxic Behaviors
Narcissists are notorious for making broad assumptions and statements: “You’re always so controlling.”
“You never let things go.” And they do this with relationships as well. But not only are these broad assumptions false – They’re also only being used by the narcissist to justify their own actions…
Narcissistic Siblings Never Have Your Back
Narcissists can be anywhere – in church, in schools, and most certainly in your family. So what if the narcissist… is your sibling? In that case, you can expect a lot of backstabbing, triangulating, and blame-throwing.
Is There Such a Thing as Mutual Abuse
Can “mutual abuse” really exist? In the overwhelming majority of situations.. no. “Abuse” by definition is about power and control of one person over another. There’s a cycle of love bombing (also known as the honeymoon phase), tension, abuse, reconciliation, and then the honeymoon phase begins again.
How Narcissists React When You’re Sick
When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you getting sick or injured WON’T get you sympathy – Narcissists view your illnesses as an inconvenience & annoyance. Because if you’re sick, you can’t meet their supply needs. You won’t be able to do for them what they want or expect. Remember, narcissists lack empathy – They’re NOT putting themselves in your shoes…
Narcissists Demand Loyalty But Give None
Did you know narcissists are REALLY loyal? It’s true! They’re always standing up for, defending, and agreeing with…Themselves! Narcissists are loyal to what best serves THEM at any given moment. Which means they can’t be loyal to another person because at some point…
Narcissistic Supply is the Narcissist’s Version of Self-Esteem
Narcissists don’t seek to BUILD self-worth. They seek to GAIN narcissistic supply. Here’s why that difference is so significant: Self-worth seeks what’s best for ALL – narcissistic supply seeks what’s best for ME. Self-worth is an INTERNAL process that comes from BEING who we say we are.
Narcissists Use Information Against You
Thoughtful questions make us think that the speaker is thoughtful, too. That’s why narcissists ask all kinds of “thoughtful” questions at the beginning of a relationship. You assume they’re “getting to know you”…. When in reality, they’re “sourcing” you for resources.
Narcissistic Delusion
Narcissists often seem “out of touch” with reality. And this isn’t just because of their gaslighting and denial. It’s also because they can be incredibly delusional! The most obvious way you see this is through their “delusions of grandeur”.
They think they’re…
The Perfect Candidate for a Narcissist
Narcissists are on the hunt for people with specific behaviors and traits. This is because their difficult and antagonistic personalty style means that they’re not very “agreeable” or “easy going”.So they need certain types of people around them in order to behave the way they want to…
Narcissists Believe Everything is For, Against or About Them
Narcissists are incredibly egocentric. Meaning they believe everything is FOR, AGAINST, or ABOUT them. This is KEY to understanding why you feel GUILTY so often in narcissistic relationships.
The Subtle Ways Narcissists Reveal Themselves
Narcissists are always living a double life. So they remain slightly paranoid that they will be “found out”. Which is why they’re so intent on distracting you, gaslighting you, and confusing you. But what they DON’T say… is even more telling than what they DO say.
How Narcissists Use Mental Health Concepts Against You
We mix real mental health terms into our daily lives, calling someone we don’t like a “narcissist” and claiming to have “bipolar” because we can’t decide what we want for lunch. But when we flippantly use serious mental health concepts in a frivolous way… The terms lose their significance and impact. “Narcissist” went from a word no one used – to a word everyone uses.
Is There a Difference Between Dysfunctional and Abusive Behavior?
How can you tell if you’re in a relationship with a *toxic* person (and need to run away immediately)... Or a *dysfunctional* person? I believe many times we end up tolerating toxic relationships because we aren’t sure where the line is. We think things like: We can...
Chelsey’s Articles
Discover transformational articles on healing from narcissistic abuse, interpersonal trauma, toxic relationships, gaslighting, thriving as an introvert/empath, self-worth, intuition, anxiety, relationships, self-trust, boundaries, and more!
Healthy Communication Does Not Work With Toxic People
You need two types of communication strategies: One for healthy people. And one for toxic people. Healthy communication not only doesn’t work with toxic people… it makes things worse. Here’s why…
Don’t Ignore These Red Flags When Dating
Dating should be a time of reflection & of getting to know one another – It’s a time to WATCH for red flags – not ignore them. And yet sometimes we’re so focused on this person being THE person… We’re willing to overlook, downplay, or flat out dismiss our gut feelings.
How Narcissists Normalize their Toxic Behaviors
Narcissists are notorious for making broad assumptions and statements: “You’re always so controlling.”
“You never let things go.” And they do this with relationships as well. But not only are these broad assumptions false – They’re also only being used by the narcissist to justify their own actions…
Narcissistic Siblings Never Have Your Back
Narcissists can be anywhere – in church, in schools, and most certainly in your family. So what if the narcissist… is your sibling? In that case, you can expect a lot of backstabbing, triangulating, and blame-throwing.
Is There Such a Thing as Mutual Abuse
Can “mutual abuse” really exist? In the overwhelming majority of situations.. no. “Abuse” by definition is about power and control of one person over another. There’s a cycle of love bombing (also known as the honeymoon phase), tension, abuse, reconciliation, and then the honeymoon phase begins again.
How Narcissists React When You’re Sick
When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you getting sick or injured WON’T get you sympathy – Narcissists view your illnesses as an inconvenience & annoyance. Because if you’re sick, you can’t meet their supply needs. You won’t be able to do for them what they want or expect. Remember, narcissists lack empathy – They’re NOT putting themselves in your shoes…
Narcissists Demand Loyalty But Give None
Did you know narcissists are REALLY loyal? It’s true! They’re always standing up for, defending, and agreeing with…Themselves! Narcissists are loyal to what best serves THEM at any given moment. Which means they can’t be loyal to another person because at some point…
Narcissistic Supply is the Narcissist’s Version of Self-Esteem
Narcissists don’t seek to BUILD self-worth. They seek to GAIN narcissistic supply. Here’s why that difference is so significant: Self-worth seeks what’s best for ALL – narcissistic supply seeks what’s best for ME. Self-worth is an INTERNAL process that comes from BEING who we say we are.
Narcissists Use Information Against You
Thoughtful questions make us think that the speaker is thoughtful, too. That’s why narcissists ask all kinds of “thoughtful” questions at the beginning of a relationship. You assume they’re “getting to know you”…. When in reality, they’re “sourcing” you for resources.
Narcissistic Delusion
Narcissists often seem “out of touch” with reality. And this isn’t just because of their gaslighting and denial. It’s also because they can be incredibly delusional! The most obvious way you see this is through their “delusions of grandeur”.
They think they’re…
The Perfect Candidate for a Narcissist
Narcissists are on the hunt for people with specific behaviors and traits. This is because their difficult and antagonistic personalty style means that they’re not very “agreeable” or “easy going”.So they need certain types of people around them in order to behave the way they want to…
Narcissists Believe Everything is For, Against or About Them
Narcissists are incredibly egocentric. Meaning they believe everything is FOR, AGAINST, or ABOUT them. This is KEY to understanding why you feel GUILTY so often in narcissistic relationships.
The Subtle Ways Narcissists Reveal Themselves
Narcissists are always living a double life. So they remain slightly paranoid that they will be “found out”. Which is why they’re so intent on distracting you, gaslighting you, and confusing you. But what they DON’T say… is even more telling than what they DO say.
How Narcissists Use Mental Health Concepts Against You
We mix real mental health terms into our daily lives, calling someone we don’t like a “narcissist” and claiming to have “bipolar” because we can’t decide what we want for lunch. But when we flippantly use serious mental health concepts in a frivolous way… The terms lose their significance and impact. “Narcissist” went from a word no one used – to a word everyone uses.
Is There a Difference Between Dysfunctional and Abusive Behavior?
How can you tell if you’re in a relationship with a *toxic* person (and need to run away immediately)... Or a *dysfunctional* person? I believe many times we end up tolerating toxic relationships because we aren’t sure where the line is. We think things like: We can...
Chelsey’s Articles
Discover transformational articles on healing from narcissistic abuse, interpersonal trauma, toxic relationships, gaslighting, thriving as an introvert/empath, self-worth, intuition, anxiety, relationships, self-trust, boundaries, and more!
Healthy Communication Does Not Work With Toxic People
You need two types of communication strategies: One for healthy people. And one for toxic people. Healthy communication not only doesn’t work with toxic people… it makes things worse. Here’s why…
Don’t Ignore These Red Flags When Dating
Dating should be a time of reflection & of getting to know one another – It’s a time to WATCH for red flags – not ignore them. And yet sometimes we’re so focused on this person being THE person… We’re willing to overlook, downplay, or flat out dismiss our gut feelings.
How Narcissists Normalize their Toxic Behaviors
Narcissists are notorious for making broad assumptions and statements: “You’re always so controlling.”
“You never let things go.” And they do this with relationships as well. But not only are these broad assumptions false – They’re also only being used by the narcissist to justify their own actions…
Narcissistic Siblings Never Have Your Back
Narcissists can be anywhere – in church, in schools, and most certainly in your family. So what if the narcissist… is your sibling? In that case, you can expect a lot of backstabbing, triangulating, and blame-throwing.
Is There Such a Thing as Mutual Abuse
Can “mutual abuse” really exist? In the overwhelming majority of situations.. no. “Abuse” by definition is about power and control of one person over another. There’s a cycle of love bombing (also known as the honeymoon phase), tension, abuse, reconciliation, and then the honeymoon phase begins again.
How Narcissists React When You’re Sick
When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you getting sick or injured WON’T get you sympathy – Narcissists view your illnesses as an inconvenience & annoyance. Because if you’re sick, you can’t meet their supply needs. You won’t be able to do for them what they want or expect. Remember, narcissists lack empathy – They’re NOT putting themselves in your shoes…
Narcissists Demand Loyalty But Give None
Did you know narcissists are REALLY loyal? It’s true! They’re always standing up for, defending, and agreeing with…Themselves! Narcissists are loyal to what best serves THEM at any given moment. Which means they can’t be loyal to another person because at some point…
Narcissistic Supply is the Narcissist’s Version of Self-Esteem
Narcissists don’t seek to BUILD self-worth. They seek to GAIN narcissistic supply. Here’s why that difference is so significant: Self-worth seeks what’s best for ALL – narcissistic supply seeks what’s best for ME. Self-worth is an INTERNAL process that comes from BEING who we say we are.
Narcissists Use Information Against You
Thoughtful questions make us think that the speaker is thoughtful, too. That’s why narcissists ask all kinds of “thoughtful” questions at the beginning of a relationship. You assume they’re “getting to know you”…. When in reality, they’re “sourcing” you for resources.
Narcissistic Delusion
Narcissists often seem “out of touch” with reality. And this isn’t just because of their gaslighting and denial. It’s also because they can be incredibly delusional! The most obvious way you see this is through their “delusions of grandeur”.
They think they’re…
The Perfect Candidate for a Narcissist
Narcissists are on the hunt for people with specific behaviors and traits. This is because their difficult and antagonistic personalty style means that they’re not very “agreeable” or “easy going”.So they need certain types of people around them in order to behave the way they want to…
Narcissists Believe Everything is For, Against or About Them
Narcissists are incredibly egocentric. Meaning they believe everything is FOR, AGAINST, or ABOUT them. This is KEY to understanding why you feel GUILTY so often in narcissistic relationships.
The Subtle Ways Narcissists Reveal Themselves
Narcissists are always living a double life. So they remain slightly paranoid that they will be “found out”. Which is why they’re so intent on distracting you, gaslighting you, and confusing you. But what they DON’T say… is even more telling than what they DO say.
How Narcissists Use Mental Health Concepts Against You
We mix real mental health terms into our daily lives, calling someone we don’t like a “narcissist” and claiming to have “bipolar” because we can’t decide what we want for lunch. But when we flippantly use serious mental health concepts in a frivolous way… The terms lose their significance and impact. “Narcissist” went from a word no one used – to a word everyone uses.
Is There a Difference Between Dysfunctional and Abusive Behavior?
How can you tell if you’re in a relationship with a *toxic* person (and need to run away immediately)... Or a *dysfunctional* person? I believe many times we end up tolerating toxic relationships because we aren’t sure where the line is. We think things like: We can...
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