Dating should be a time of reflection and of getting to know one another. It’s a time to WATCH for red flags – not ignore them.

And yet sometimes we’re so focused on this person being THE person…

We’re willing to overlook, downplay, or flat-out dismiss our gut feelings. So, here’s a list of potential red flags that should be thoughtfully & intentionally watched for.

Red flags that you should notice about your dating partner include:

• Asking to move in or get engaged too quickly
• Talking about themselves all the time
• Being dismissive of your emotions
• Getting angry when you share a request (big or small)
• When they say, “You always make me feel bad,” in response to you setting a boundary or expressing your needs
• Any type of name-calling or insults, even if it’s only during arguments
• Always shifting blame or not taking personal responsibility
• They only bring up their “issues with you” when you express your concerns about their behavior
• Feeling a super intense initial attraction that you “can’t really explain” (this is often the start of a trauma bond relationship)
• Saying an insult or putting you down (and then saying “just kidding” or “it was just a joke”)

• Demeaning you and then laughing about it
• Saying I love you too quickly
• They’re always a victim in their stories of their past relationships (it’s never their fault)
• They make excuses for lots of things (not being on time, not listening because they had a bad day or were stressed, etc.)
• Selfish/childish behavior

Although these red flags don’t always point toward a narcissist, they are something to be aware of and watched closely to see if it continues or improves –

Otherwise, you could end up in a toxic relationship and that cycle is very difficult to break.

What other red flags would you add to the list?

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