The Facts About Reactive Abuse
Reactive abuse happens when a person (the victim) eventually reacts to the abuse that is happening to them. For example, if someone has chronically demeaned, belittled, or criticized you, and you eventually lash out and yell at them – that’s reactive abuse. Or...
Why Does It Get Worse After Marrying A Narcissist?
If narcissists don’t really want to commit… Then why do they get married? It’s a legitimate (yet misguided) question. Because when narcissists decide to get married, their behavior doesn’t change. They will still gaslight, minimize, belittle, and demean you. They...
The Real Purpose of a Smear Campaign
Smear campaigns aren’t as simple as the narcissist just spreading lies about you. Narcissists are masters of manipulation. They have a method… a way in which they say things… so people begin to question what they really know about you. Narcissists tell...
Narcissists Do Not Care About Evidence
When you’re being gaslighted, you initially think it’s a matter of evidence. “Once I can PROVE my point, this will be resolved.” “Maybe they just don’t remember what happened. I’ll show them the text messages, then they’ll understand.” “Once I show them proof that...
Why Do Narcissistic Relationships Leave You Feeling So Isolated?
Emotional pain is felt – not seen. So anytime you experience mental or emotional hurt, it’s really common to feel completely alone and misunderstood. People tell you to: Let it go Move on Get over it Or make statements like: You shouldn’t let this ruin your...
Chelsey Brooke Cole is a psychotherapist, speaker, author, and coach specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma. She is the author of If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth.
