When you’re being devalued by a neglectful narcissist, they put you down in subtle ways. 

Contemptuous comments. 

Avoiding compliments. 

Withholding affection. 

They act like you don’t exist.

If you cry, they don’t console you or show emotion. 

If you talk to them, they look right through you. 

If you try to connect with them, they give you a punishing silent treatment.

Over time, the neglect adds up and starts impacting you in ways you may not even recognize as being caused from their abuse. 

Things like:

>Apologizing all the time

>Not wanting to “bother” people with your needs

>Constant people-pleasing

>Not taking care of yourself (emotionally or physically)

>Feeling incredibly empty or hollow

With neglectful narcissists, you’re treated as irrelevant and nonexistent for so long that you start neglecting your own needs. 

You don’t even know who you are anymore and don’t feel like you deserve anything.

At times, you feel like your self-worth couldn’t get any lower.

You get used to giving everything and getting nothing.

When you’ve experienced this level of emotional neglect… healing takes time.

Be kind to yourself.

Give yourself space to recognize what you’ve been through and to start taking care of yourself again (or maybe for the first time).

Just because someone treats you as worthless – does NOT mean you are!

They’re simply projecting their own feelings of inadequacy onto you.

Start taking yourself back – one kind word at a time.

Have you ever felt completely devalued in a narcissistic relationship? What’s one way you started to heal?

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