Don’t Ignore These Red Flags When Dating
Dating should be a time of reflection and of getting to know one another. It’s a time to WATCH for red flags – not ignore them. And yet sometimes we’re so focused on this person being THE person… We’re willing to overlook, downplay, or flat-out dismiss our gut...
People Lie – But Their Actions Do Not
We should be looking *much* more closely at someone’s actions than their words. People can say anything they want. We use the same process (speaking) to tell both a truth and a lie. Many people become overwhelmed with trying to decipher what’s healthy or unhealthy,...
Relationship Myths That Will Destroy You
Some relationships myths will destroy you – here’s why. We’ve all heard them. Relationship advice that’s supposed to “help” you. It tells us what to believe about relationships, how to make relationships “work”, and what you can and can’t expect from a...
The Facts About Reactive Abuse
Reactive abuse happens when a person (the victim) eventually reacts to the abuse that is happening to them. For example, if someone has chronically demeaned, belittled, or criticized you, and you eventually lash out and yell at them – that’s reactive abuse. Or...
Why Does It Get Worse After Marrying A Narcissist?
If narcissists don’t really want to commit… Then why do they get married? It’s a legitimate (yet misguided) question. Because when narcissists decide to get married, their behavior doesn’t change. They will still gaslight, minimize, belittle, and demean you. They...
Chelsey Brooke Cole is a psychotherapist, speaker, author, and coach specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma. She is the author of If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth.
