People Lie – But Their Actions Do Not
We should be looking *much* more closely at someone’s actions than their words. People can say anything they want. We use the same process (speaking) to tell both a truth and a lie. Many people become overwhelmed with trying to decipher what’s healthy or unhealthy,...
The Hidden Trauma Associated With A Neglectful Narcissist
When you’re being devalued by a neglectful narcissist, they put you down in subtle ways. Contemptuous comments. Avoiding compliments. Withholding affection. They act like you don’t exist. If you cry, they don’t console you or show emotion. If you talk to them,...
Healthy People Don’t Play Games In Relationships
Do you know why you always feel so confused, foggy, and disoriented when dealing with toxic people? Because you’re only EVER dealing with the tip of the iceberg. What they’re SAYING vs. what they’re DOING (when you’re not looking) – are two VERY different...
The Facade of a Narcissist
Are narcissists *always* cruel?Why can they be both nice AND mean at times?They don’t treat everyone poorly – maybe I’m the problem? Let’s break this down. Most narcissists are very charming, act like social chameleons and can blend in seamlessly into any...
What Are Flying Monkeys And How Can They Harm You?
Walking away from or setting boundaries with toxic people is difficult enough on its own. But add in flying monkeys? And it can feel near impossible. You see, narcissists can only survive if people believe their lies and manipulations. That’s why they’re often very...
Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and speaker specializing in narcissistic abuse and complex trauma. Praised as "Enlightening and Empowering" Chelsey's bestselling book, If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth is available wherever books are sold.