Do you know why you always feel so confused, foggy, and disoriented when dealing with toxic people?
Because you’re only EVER dealing with the tip of the iceberg.
What they’re SAYING vs. what they’re DOING (when you’re not looking) – are two VERY different things.
So while you’re trying to have a conversation with them about your concerns, you have feelings of overwhelm, confusion, and fogginess due to their two-faced persona.
It’s like trying to catch water with your bare hands – you feel like you just can’t ever fully deal with or resolve anything.
If you grew up in a toxic home or became accustomed to toxic relationships, it’s hard to imagine that there’s anything else out there.
The “best possible scenario” for you might be to at least *know* what toxic or harmful behaviors someone is engaging in.
But being with someone who doesn’t have toxic behaviors at all?
Can seem pretty far-fetched.
And I get it – I once thought the same thing.
But now, as someone who’s experienced both toxic and healthy relationships, I can tell you with 100% certainty:
Easy relationships are possible.
Does life have ups and downs?
Do relationships have struggles, disagreements, or conflicts?
But in healthy relationships, you’re ONLY dealing with the difficulty at hand.
You’re not ALSO having to deal with their manipulations, lies, deceitful behaviors, & criticisms.
And even during those difficulties, you KNOW the other person still:
Cares for you
Wants the best for you
Healthy people DON’T play games.
They DO what they SAY and SAY what they MEAN!
And anyone who does less than this – doesn’t deserve you.
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