Healthy Communication Does Not Work With Toxic People
You need two types of communication strategies: One for healthy people. And one for toxic people. Healthy communication not only doesn’t work with toxic people… it makes things worse. Here’s why: Healthy communication assumes that both people: (1) Have each other’s...
Don’t Ignore These Red Flags When Dating
Dating should be a time of reflection and of getting to know one another. It’s a time to WATCH for red flags – not ignore them. And yet sometimes we’re so focused on this person being THE person… We’re willing to overlook, downplay, or flat-out dismiss our gut...
People Lie – But Their Actions Do Not
We should be looking *much* more closely at someone’s actions than their words. People can say anything they want. We use the same process (speaking) to tell both a truth and a lie. Many people become overwhelmed with trying to decipher what’s healthy or unhealthy,...
Relationship Myths That Will Destroy You
Some relationships myths will destroy you – here’s why. We’ve all heard them. Relationship advice that’s supposed to “help” you. It tells us what to believe about relationships, how to make relationships “work”, and what you can and can’t expect from a...
The Facts About Reactive Abuse
Reactive abuse happens when a person (the victim) eventually reacts to the abuse that is happening to them. For example, if someone has chronically demeaned, belittled, or criticized you, and you eventually lash out and yell at them – that’s reactive abuse. Or...
Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and speaker specializing in narcissistic abuse and complex trauma. Praised as "Enlightening and Empowering" Chelsey's bestselling book, If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth is available wherever books are sold.