If you’ve ever been accused of being rude, self-centered, cold, or distant for withdrawing into your shell for a period of time, you know the pain and guilt of trying to meet your quiet needs.

This misunderstanding can be confusing, and hurtful, and can place a strain on our relationships.

Of course, our recoiling back into ourselves isn’t something we do out of selfish ambition, but rather from a desire to refuel, restore, and renew our mind and body.

We don’t mean to hurt others during this time, but a lack of understanding and acceptance of our motivation for seeking solitude is just one of the many times introverts may be pressured to feel guilty for taking time for self-care.

The truth is this: we are urged, even from our earliest experiences, to accept and conform to an extroverted idea of happiness.

We’re told that to be successful, you must attend a never-ending array of social events – to be happy, you must be surrounded by a sea of people – and to be liked, you must be energetic, talkative, and effervescently engaged in small talk and endless chatter. 

But here’s the thing: an introvert’s idea of happiness, success, and likability is based on very different factors.

To us, happiness is finding a quiet place to read, listen to music, or become lost in nature.

To us, success is finding one true friendship or making a difference in the lives of those we care about – even if that’s just a couple of people.

To us, being liked is much less important than being genuine, authentic, and real.

You see, finding contentment isn’t about accepting the world’s pre-written standards for your life – it’s about carving out your own path and seeing it through to the end, where you’re free to create whatever you want – no judgments allowed.











About Me
Chelsey Brooke Cole is a psychotherapist, speaker, author, and coach specializing in narcissistic abuse and helping introverts and empaths thrive.

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